The Most Powerful Energy Hack You’re Probably Not Using!

If you’ve been running on low energy, low motivation, or that constant low-key “why am I always so tired?”… this one’s for you.

Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get enough credit when it comes to energy, focus, and feeling grounded:

Self-compassion.

Not in a fluffy “just be nicer to yourself” kind of way.
But in the real, nervous-system-regulating, energy-preserving kind of way.

What We Tell Ourselves Matters

We spend so much of our internal energy beating ourselves up.

Telling ourselves we’re not doing enough.
That we should be further ahead by now.
That we’re behind. Too slow. Not getting it right.

That voice might be quiet and sneaky. Or it might be loud.
But either way—it’s draining.

Relentless self-criticism doesn’t just chip away at your confidence.
It exhausts your brain and body.

Every time you speak to yourself with pressure, frustration, or shame, your system registers it as a threat. It triggers the stress response: more cortisol, more tension, less capacity to think clearly or regulate your emotions.

The Voice in Your Head Isn’t Just “Tough Love”

That inner narrative might sound productive—like you’re keeping yourself in check. But let’s be honest: it’s not helping. It’s burning through your capacity. Not fuelling it.

What actually helps?

Not pushing harder.
But pausing—and choosing a different tone.

Try This One Question

Something I’ve been working with:

“What if I treated myself the way I treat someone I care about?”

If you’ve rolled your eyes at this before, I get it. Same.

I’d never speak to a friend the way I sometimes speak to myself. And yet… we do it on autopilot.

So here’s something that helped me shift that:

Find a photo of little you.
Make it your screensaver for a week.

And the next time you catch yourself spiralling or being hard on yourself (yes, this includes the quiet thoughts too), pause and ask:

“Would I say this to them?”

If not—something probably needs to shift.

Why This Actually Works

Self-compassion isn’t just a nice idea.
It’s backed by neuroscience.

When we meet ourselves with warmth instead of pressure, the nervous system softens.
We switch out of fight-or-flight.
The prefrontal cortex (the part of your brain responsible for focus, problem solving, and perspective) comes back online.

It doesn’t make you weaker.
It gives you access to more clarity, more grounded energy, more capacity.

Being hard on yourself doesn’t make you better.
It just makes everything harder.

Having your own back—that’s where the shift really happens.

A Few Questions to Sit With

– What’s one moment this week I could’ve met myself with more kindness?
– What’s the tone of voice in my head when things don’t go “perfectly”?
– Where am I wasting energy trying to push through, when I could pause and reset?

If any of this hits home—you're not alone.

And if you’re ready to stop running on survival mode and start building a more grounded, sustainable way of being—I’d love to support you.

Get in touch here to book a FREE intake call to explore how we could work together.